Welcome Krougar. Your question has been answered very well by Ashton & Euryleia, from what I can see.

I've been interested in kinky stuff for a looong time, & wouldn't set out to find a partner on the basis of kink alone. Not saying it wouldn't work....

I told my wife of my interests when we met, & she came around to a fair extent. Unfortunately then my tastes changed from submission to domination, & by the time she got interested in being the 'tied one' her health isn't up to it.

Still- the age old question is whether or not a great relationship with another person & a little kinkiness is preferable to a whole lot of kinkiness & a mediocre relationship. You can get both, but it sure ain't easy.