Oh geez B, I wish I could say it will be easy to find someone new. I hear every day how hard it is to find a decent Dom.

You certainly shouldn't just jump right in, my opinion is that you need to get to know each other first before starting a D/s relationship.

From the little I know about your situation, I can't see that time is the problem. More like lack of committment. If he was serious about it, he'd find the time- regardless.

I understand about people not being serious. While I may only do online/phone relationships, I'm very serious about it & expect a genuine effort from my girl.

Yes it does take time to build the trust, but surely it's worth it. Can't you start an online thing with someone & have the proviso that you have to meet before you can get serious? Every girl I've ever played with, started off as friends. I just got to know them, & generally was asked if I'd go the extra step.

Good luck in your search. I hope you can remember to be true to yourself & not accept a compromise.

He loves his job more than a girlfriend/sub?? That sounds a little um.... unusual?

Tojo