Geez did I say I tell my wife 'the essence of what I do?'

No I darn well don't tell her the 'essence' of what I do- I tell her a small part.

I have friends, & I have a girl that regards herself as my property. The friends I have no problem talking about.

I agree trust & understanding are two different things. A few hours ago, I had a chat with a friend. I said 'why don't you chat with me when your bf is there? We're just friends?'

She said 'yes I'll tell him: Honey- I'm talking to the guy in Australia that sent me those steel shackles...'

Hmm. I guess it gets down to this for me- do I stop thinking about what is a huge part of me to be true to my wife? Would she be better off?

Or would I end up hating her & losing interest? Do I need to make the choice?

If I said to her 'Either it's OK for me to have online relationships or I'm never going to be happy, & may end up leaving you' I know she'd say it's fine. Do I tell her I'm in love with one of my friends? Where does it end?

Too much honesty can be a bad thing-IMO. Think about that.



Tojo