Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
Warbaby, I'm just going to take a shot in the dark... When a man feels he's a submissive yet wonders if he may "secretly" be dominant (or a switch tending to dominance,) it's usually because of societal upbringing and gender roles.

Go with your first instincts. If you meet someone who draws you into a dominant role, that's different... but I suggest you don't confuse yourself with self doubts which may be based strictly in the traditional gender roles laid onto your psyche. Being a warbaby, you were raised in an era that resulted in an overly male dominating society.
Ozme52,

Thanks for the advise and I do believe there is a lot of truth to what you say. When I was a child the mothers were homemakers and the fathers were the king of there castles and the only bread winners in the household. I remember it well. I also think in many ways things were much better back in the day. That being said, nostalgia is done for now.

Still, I think I am reading too much and I have discovered the miracle of the Internet in that I see a lot of women being dominated by their Doms. This is exciting while on the other hand I also see many pictures of Mistresses dominating males and, again, this is also very stimulating.

I think my newness to all this is taking its toll on my imagination. However, I have to agree with you about going with my first instincts and that is of submission. In addition, it is much easier to buy that type of scene or action, whatever you want to call it.

When I did visit a professional it was very difficult to relate to her what I was looking for in my visit with her, and they do ask you this question. I found myself listing things that she advertised as actions she enjoyed doing or things she couldn't get enough of. I can't even imagine what I would be able to come up with if I were to be in the dominate position of a scene.

As it stands now, I'm certain I will never find out if I could handle the dominate position, and I am fine with that.

Again, thank you.