I myself HAD to find positives from being abused or I would not have survived it. I could not roll over and play dead. That would be giving power over to my abuser. He'd already had too much power over me. I couldn't let him ruin the rest of my life. I wouldn't let him have anymore power over me. I got stronger from that experience. I was a survivor. I lived to tell the tale. That has to account for something. Yes, I still suffer from it, but I am no longer alone. Master has been there for me, so that when I have someone to lean on, He is there. And now I have this wonderful group of subs that understand where I've been, because they have also been in my shoes.