Originally posted by sisterhoney61:
It doesn't matter if the other person is throwing insults at you or throwing you against the wall. It is abuse, plain and simple
I think anyone who was emotionally and/or verbally abused has had at least one person say that they "had suffered 'only' verbal abuse." Shame, humiliation (malicious humiliation!) and degredation take longer to heal because even sometimes the victims are really hard on themselves (like me). Saying things like "why do I feel this way, at least I wasn't beaten!"

It took me a long time to see what happened as "real" abuse. It wasn't until a therapist gave me a rather incredulous look and told me in no uncertain terms, "You feel that way because you suffered abuse!" That was quite a revelation. It was difficult to accept. Abuse only happens to others, not me. Well it did happen. Now I'm able to work through it.

Originally posted by icey:
always seemed to be in the wrong place...
Please think about joining the discussion. Your comment almost sounds like you are placing the blame for the rape on you. Rape is wrong no matter where you are and what place it is. If you feel like you can't say anything just listen.