Originally posted by fetishdj:
Masochist: Beat me, hurt me, spank me! Sadist: No.
lol

Originally posted by delia:
there are different ways to punish, and no way works for any 2 submissives
Originally posted by tessa:
each person is unique, so no one thing can be used as an all-effective punishment or reinforcement across the board
I don't have much experience disciplining slaves, but I have three kids. When they were little I found out that I had to tailor my technique to each one.

As things ended up with my oldest, a look of disappointment could reduce her to tears. If she was sent to her room, she ended up playing quietly with her dolls and didn't want to come out when her time was up.

My middle daughter would return a look of disappointment with a look of defiance. On the other hand, she went ballistic when sent to her room.

The youngest, my son, was very simple to punish. Just take away his video games.

As shown by leighK81's post, any discussion like this should also include the type of people a paticular technique works on, and doesn't work on.

The old saying, "I treat then all the same" just isn't realistic.

Now, with all that said, I found that it was also very helpful to apologise to them when I was wrong. At first it was hard because I thought it would destroy my authority. It didn't, it actually made things better. They learned that I was human and made mistakes too. It also helped bring them all to a point where actual punishments were reduced.

ps
delia, you have a nice soapbox.