In the over 30 years I have been envovled with BDSM I have found some things common amoung the groups I was with. One is that both the subs and slaves chose who is to Dom them. If is going to last there is a period of coutship if you will so they can become more aware of each other. During this period limits are discussed and agreed upon. The slaves I have knowen all said they would do anything their Dom/Domms asked of them they trusted them that much. I do admitt the almost all were husband and wife also. And the Dom/Domme had their owen limits. As far as safety is concerned it is called safe and sane play. And I agree that the issuse here is not my deffintion of slavery but rather his inability to accept his subs answer of NO. And I too am qiute concerned that he does not know what ind of animals nor how many there are. I am a firm believer in NO MEANS NO.