cg that was just awsome i hope we all take it to heart here, i know i do


i only have one more thing to add,, its mainly for people that are going to meet someone from online for the first time

i didnt do the following and it was a serious contributing factor to what happened to me;


1)Allways have a responsible (real life not online)third party that yu trust available to monitor from a distance your encounter that yu must contact in person (if contact by phone then have a pre arranged "trouble" word) by a certian time or they will call the cops for yu etc,,

2) do not go anywhere with the perspective dom without letting yur contact know the location, address etc

3) have prearanged times, set them in stone like a hard limit and its ok to explain that these times cant be broken to the person your meeting,, that way they will know you are not a good "abduction" canadate

4) keep yur responsible party contact long after the inital meeting,, gradually relaxing the standards until you really know the person, for instance: with me it was a few days allmost a full week before "bad" things started to happen and i realized i was in way over my head with no hope of escape (i recomend a month or two at least)

5) never allow yur emergency contact to be in the perspective doms presence with you, if he has bad intentions you may both end up in trouble

6) dont let yur gaurd down just because its a woman, or he has a woman with him when you meet,, belive it or not she may be an willing or perhaps not so willing accomplance. (which was the case for me)

7) last but not least "take your time and think things through" you may really like the person and be head over heels from the time yu have spent with him or her online, which may cloud your judgement big time,, dont rush,, be careful be safe first,

If they resent these limitations or complain about them (if they know there in place), then perhaps they have some issues you need to carefully think about before making a further comitment to them.

Eventually if they are the Mr or Mrs "right" for you they will earn you trust with time and more than likely will be fine with your extra saftey percautions because if they really do care they will want yu to feel safe.


In addition to this the more people know about your relationship to this person the better, a lot of the above can also be handeled with a "group" of people supporting yu, heck if yu can, meet he or she with a group of yur friends present the first couple times, the more people know thier face address job etc etc the better.