Thank you for posting that article, borg's slave! That was my ex-husband in a nutshell. He kept me very isolated (my family was 5 hours away) and I had no friends to turn to for a long time. During the last year of our marriage I returned to college at the age of 35, something that he did not want me to do, because it meant that I couldn't remain under his control anymore. I started college that December, using his money to go to school with and by April he quit in job. I think he did that in a futile effort to get me to quit school. But I simply applied for financial aid. By December we were divorced. It blew his mind when I filed for divorce, because he could not believe that his sweet little doormat would do such a thing. And then the abuse got worse.

The article was very good in describing the chaos and drama that is involved in living with an abuser. My life is so much calmer now and I get a thrill out of little things, like going to the grocery store with Master. I don't have to walk on eggshells anymore for fear of saying or doing something that is going cause someone to yell at me or hit me. I don't have to sit up at night wondering where my husband is and wondering if I should call the ER or the jails yet again. I don't have to call the suicide hotline because I'm sobbing and want to die again. I'm in a calm and stable relationship, one where I'm loved and cared for.

It is possible to break free from the past and find peace and love. I'm living proof.