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What I did was research different diets and then talked to my doc about which one is better and we came to the conclusion that the South Beach diet was the best one for me. You can research it if you would like. I have cut out all pop and most sweets and I have been losing the weight. I check in with my doc once a month but if things start going bad I won't hesistate to call my doc. Plus from the nice sunburn I have now I have been doing a lot of swimming which is exercise so its not all bad.
I hate to be a Mr complainy. But I don't think Claire was asking for diet tips. The fact that you assume all fat people do... well... just adds to the prejudice both you and Claire was expressing.

I think this subject is very interesting so I'd hate it turning into a diet tips session. But if that's what you want Claire, I'll apologise and go and sit down again.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person?

It's not a question of repelled. I just don't notice fat women. I can scan a room and my mind just erases them. But, no I can't say its anything that attracts me. And there's fat and fat. I don't fall for skinny women either. My mind erases them to. I used to be attracted to them when I was a kid. But as I got older my tastes got heavier and heavier. But I still wouldn't call my wife today over-weight/fat. Not even nearly. She's my ideal. I also don't notice young chicks, (16-19) any more. Which I think is interesting, because I used to think they were the hottest chicks. I still think they're pretty, but they've fallen completely off my sexual interest radar. I'm more, "get your feet off the seat!" when I'm on the subway. The parenty vibe.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person?

Thin is relative. I like athletic bodies. Just thin means there's no muscles. I think muscles are important.

What body type attracts you most?
It's a question of proportion. A girl with big breasts can get away with some fat on her belly. While a woman not as blessed with them can't.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life?
In my early teens I used to think I was ugly and nobody could be attracted to me for my looks. So I thought I'd have to compensate with a great personality and getting a reputation for being dangerous, (ha ha snicker... embarrassing memories). When I was 18 I was stopped in the street by a modelling scout and I ended up modelling for underwear. Yes, my own body image effected my love/sex life a lot. But my own body image was insane. I could see an ugliness nobody else could. My soul was in a lot of pain which made me think the outside was as ugly as on the inside. My modelling stint was a rude awakening which solved all my body issues in one quick stroke. And after that I became totally full of myself thinking I was gods gift to women. And I'm sure I had much higher views of my own looks than what was actually true.

The moral of the story was that you might as well think you're gorgeous. It's not as if its anything that can be measured. And Claire, the fact that you're boyfriends into you just proves I'm right. You've got a body image that makes you think you look worse than reality. The fact that you're boyfriend is as into you as he is proves it. All men might not share the view, but who cares? It's not the rest of the world you're trying to impress. Just your own love at home.