All nice ideas and ones I will think about. At the moment I feel a full on conversation will be scary enough - there is a lot of bad things said about this lifestyle that I feel she is picking up on. However, gentle introductions are always good. Thanks all.

Sorry its taken me so long to respond. I usually view the site by looking at 'posts since last visit' and for some reason responses to posts I have made do not show up there...

So, any more ideas?