Interesting thread, quite possibly it could be a poll.

My wife and I practice both in and out of the bedroom. I don't order around, and expect her to like it. I order around cause she likes it. So if your going to have it out of the bedroom it would be because you want him to do it, and he just as much as you want it, wants to order you around. Although it doesnt really have to be him ordering you around, its more of how you act around him, and then when you do get back to the bedroom he gets to spank your butt, and tie you up for saying anything wrong.

There are so many different ways to do BDSM, both in and out of the bedroom, that for me to tell you how to do it, I feel is rather rude on my part. I know I don't want anyone telling me how to do what I do.

I have learned a very important charateristic about BDSM while living here in Germany. I attend this club, its a dance/fetish club, and you can do many things there, and no one is going to tell you how your doing it is wrong. What I find most interesting about this club, is if I am spanking her butt, or using a crop or even a cane, barely anyone even takes notice. Its like they dont watch cause its more entertaining to take part in some other activity someplace else nearby. So you get to do what you want how you want (there are some rules, but they are so few it doesnt really interfere) how you want, and no one even looks. I love that atmostphere.

Anyway, great thread!!

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