I'm dealing with some crapola right now and it's really got me down. How do some of you deal with your abuser(s)?

Several people have told me that I have to forgive my abuser. Right now I don't think it's possible. What I am trying to do is to let it go, to release it, so it doesn't rule my life like it once did.

Maybe at some point in the future I'll be able to say I forgive her. The problem is, the person she abused is a fourth grader in her classroom a long time ago. On top of that she never saw a reason to ask for forgiveness because she doesn't see what she did as wrong.