victims of abuse support for submissives

[denuseri]

it is very brave of you to share your story with us, i hope all will turn out well for you

i dont know what country yu are in sis, but here there are outreach programs for battered and or abused that help wemon get away from thier abusers, yu may also consider documenting any abuse that has or is occuring for later use in legal proceedings etc,

your first consern should be your imedieate saftey, i will pray for you sis

[kuriousnature]

I am in the US and ironically i worked as a play therapist in a domestic violence agency for 6 years.

[Euryleia]

I am in the US and ironically i worked as a play therapist in a domestic violence agency for 6 years.

It is more than irony. There are plenty of people out there who are educated in domestic violence and rape who still find it happening to them. We think, "Aren't I supposed to know better? How could I get myself in that position?"

And that is exactly what they want us to do--they want us to feel that it is our fault. The blame is on them, though. No matter what we did--we never asked to be abused or raped. It doesn't matter that we smiled politely as we walked by a crowd, or stayed late at a party, or invited him in for a drink or to fix our leaking faucet. It doesn't matter if we dated or married our abuser. It doesn't matter that we sought attention from our teacher or coach or uncle. It is not our fault!

They are the abusers and it is they who have violated our trust, our bodies and our psyches.