hmmmm

[claire]

Good reminder Delia for those of us who get a little too care free.

[cadence]

To be honest I was only referring to the bits and peices of Dominants. I'd prefer to see some bums. I like looking at a man's ass.
Oh and someone please get to Oz's attachment, I want to see!!!

But I wholly agree with what Delia has said. If you are comfortable enough to show your face that is your perogative. Sometimes people don't realize that even though they feel a sense of security within a place on the web, that security is not guaranteed.

I post a lot of pictures at the academy, and even then I have had some trolls tell me they have downloaded them onto thier computer, so after that they could be posted anywhere. Hence the fact I will never show my face or show anything that may give me away. Even though I try to be careful, I am probably not careful enough, but that is the risk I take and I am fully aware of what could happen.

Even if you play on cam the other person can take pictures of you without you even knowing it. So there is also that to be careful of.


I have been threatened once, by a Dominant, who said he would track down my email address and find me. And yes it can be done. I took the threat seriously enough when he tracked me down here. And that was all because I wouldn't meet him to play.
So yes there are some people who are not respectful of others and there are ways to find a person.
It's not only pictures, if you give out too much information about where you live and what type of job you do, you may inadvertently give out too much information in that regard. There are only a very few people I trust who know my real name and where I live. I trust them not to give out my information, and I respect thier's as well.

I definately do not use the same email or messenger with my close friends and family, that I use for BDSM sites. I keep those two separate.

[Ozme52]

Oh and someone please get to Oz's attachment, I want to see!!!

chuckles... if Oz moves his pic to the self-portraits area, it will be automatically approved. smiles... pics (I believe) are only allowed in these threads if they have to do w/thread content, which, though arguably Oz in his black leathers does, it isn't technically the right area for it... Probably why it hasn't been approved *smiles*

lol, I have been here long enough, I should realistically know the rules, but I got all excited. I'll contain it now, and hope the picture gets moved, because now that's unecessary teasing.

Sorry cadence... I decided to remove it. Though willing to post it here in this context... as a confident dom, I have no need to display myself in the self-portrait thread. LOL

I can, he said teasingly, arrange a private showing for you...

We should get this post back on track though.

I am still curious as to why Dominants don't show any pictures at all, is it because they don't feel that need to.

Probably true. I wouldn't have had any inclination to post that picture except in response to your comment.

Are Dominants just not exhibitionists as submissives are more inclined to be?

Perhaps Dom men, as men, tend to be more visual, and sub women, as subs, tend to try to please us that way.

[cadence]

Cadence, allow me to correct myself: I didn't mean that you, or other submissives (which I am as well, btw) don't respect yourselves when you post a pic. I fact, I have an immense admiration for the courage it takes to take those pictures and post them. Believe me that I envy and respect the courage of Slut Linda on that part.
It shows courage, it also shows devotion. BUT...that's how I look it at..many others will say different. Please don't forget that many people, even in the medical profession think about BDSM as a "sexuality disorder"

And if I offended you, please accept my apologies right here..

No need to apologize, I am not offended at all. I may have misconstrued your statement a tad.
But I can understand how others think BDSM is a sexuality disorder. Just because they are medical professionals, does not mean that their statements or thinking is absolutely valid. Some medical professionals do practice BDSM as well. I don't hold what they say too literally.

Sorry cadence... I decided to remove it. Though willing to post it here in this context... as a confident dom, I have no need to display myself in the self-portrait thread. LOL

I can, he said teasingly, arrange a private showing for you...

Please don't tease cadence, it's just wrong
but if you are willing to show, I am always ready and available

[Rowen]

But I can understand how others think BDSM is a sexuality disorder. Just because they are medical professionals, does not mean that their statements or thinking is absolutely valid. Some medical professionals do practice BDSM as well. I don't hold what they say too literally.

LMAO!!! Indeed they do!! You have any idea how adequate that remark is...?!! really, LOL...However, the point, the sad point, is that even if that is so, even if the "damsel in distress" scene is cliché in movies, even if handcuffs are THE gift on a bachelorette party...and every male head turns for a leather clad girl on a bike..many "decent people" will call us freaks, even people who should know better..
But..don't wanna do a second hijack of poor gemmies thread..sorry