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[thepast]

Right... as to the point of this thread (sorry for the hijack, gem)...

Doms often don't post pictures of themselves, I believe for two main reasons: 1.) They tend to be more alert & concerned about privacy issues then subs. Is this because they are smarter? No. More intelligent? No. More saavy? No... it's just because... well... it is; 2.) Doms are not always what is in a woman's fantasy, and, like subs, many don't want to ruin the fantasy that their sub has in their mind, or the scene personality that they have created. Does this mean, by rule, Doms are ugly? *grins* NO. Buuuut... I think they tend to, more then subs, keep that kind of thing close-chest.

As for why subs do it... I think sometimes it's an attention getter. Also, subs tend to be into some variation of exhibitionism & voyeurism & humiliation more then Doms are, in the sense that showing the picture emotes these kinks for subs, whereas a Dominant needs the submissive to show the picture in order to emote the same kinks... Does that make sense?? Like everything else, Doms tend to "get their kick" in a different way then a submissive does.

Alll that being said... Does ANYONE know a group of guys that enjoys standing for or being in pics as much as girlfriends do? Uhhh usually not. Guys just aren't as much into the whole camera thing as women are. So there could be the gender divide as well.

Personally, I know why T & I don't put our pics on here: while we love the vast majority of all y'all, I don't particularly want some creepy stalker showing up at the grocery store professing their love to me or coming up behind T in a Grim Reaper/Darth Vader moment with a knife in their hand, cursing him & killing him off for something He did as a Site Admin...chuckles... Have people met us? Of course...so they know what we look like. But again, it's all about perspective & reality... and a little bit of personal choice.

Now... mastersgem... if you need a pic of someone here on this site... *grins*... there are ...ways... to get one.... *coughs groveling coughs*

[Rowen]

As for why subs do it... I think sometimes it's an attention getter. Also, subs tend to be into some variation of exhibitionism & voyeurism & humiliation more then Doms are, in the sense that showing the picture emotes these kinks for subs, whereas a Dominant needs the submissive to show the picture in order to emote the same kinks... Does that make sense?? Like everything else, Doms tend to "get their kick" in a different way then a submissive does.

Hmmm, don't know. Maybe it is that submissive trait wanting to please, to show the devotion, perhaps also the fear of rejection, the need of reassurance that they did it right?
Becoming quit a thread btw!!

[thrall]

HHHmmm....
Could it be that they are..........smart, cautious, and know the risks????

Doms often don't post pictures of themselves, I believe for two main reasons: 1.) They tend to be more alert & concerned about privacy issues then subs. Is this because they are smarter? No.

You see Delia....i would say form what you infer.....yes they are smarter. And for the reasons you stated. More alert. More concerned about privacy. .....And are these not issues that a good Dom should be concerned about FOR his sub??? Are these not smart reasons for not posting pics??

Personally, I know why T & I don't put our pics on here: while we love the vast majority of all y'all, I don't particularly want some creepy stalker showing up at the grocery store professing their love to me or coming up behind T in a Grim Reaper/Darth Vader moment with a knife in their hand, cursing him & killing him off for something He did as a Site Admin...chuckles... Have people met us? Of course...so they know what we look like. But again, it's all about perspective & reality... and a little bit of personal choice.

Again..smart reasons for NOT posting pics. Shouldn't everyone be concerned about these issues??

Could it be that they are not who they claim to be??

Doms are not always what is in a woman's fantasy, and, like subs, many don't want to ruin the fantasy that their sub has in their mind, or the scene personality that they have created. Does this mean, by rule, Doms are ugly? *grins* NO. Buuuut... I think they tend to, more then subs, keep that kind of thing close-chest.

You say it a bit differently Delia... but is in essence the same thing....




all reasons why men/Doms.........do not post pics...