Claire:

I've been very heavy and I've been fairly thin. I've fought the weight battle my entire life. Right now I'm heavier than I want.. but have some health issues that have to be dealt with to get back to where I want to be.
I feel better if I'm a "normal" weight. Yes, there is a bias against heavy people. Peronally, I recall (transfer myself into) my own history when I see someone who is heavy. High school was hell. Since you have someone who loves you as you are...WONDERFUL!!!

I am attracted to someone who is proportional. They can be heavy or not, but proportion is a key. My wife is now heavy. She also has BC. After all the shit is over, then we can start to change our lives. Has body size affected my/our love/sex life? Yes. But we manage. Not as well as I would like...but we manage.

My daughter is a BBW. But she has both the confidence and personality to be both sexy and gorgeous. (yeah, I'm her father. No, I don't have pedo tendancies. )


But a more important issue is your health. You can be large and still be healthy....or not. If you are having health issues...hypertension, type II Diabetes, edema or other quality of life problems, then you you might want to examine what you might do to correct them. All these things revolve around choices. It's simply a matter of: do you want to make the choice? NOTE: I didn't say it was an EASY choice! My expectation is that you might be experiencing clinical depression. I'd be surprised if you weren't. It's a bitch. It also compounds the very things you've brought up. You have my wishes and prayers for your struggle to find a comfortable solution. Not just been there...still there.

the Snark