Thank you all for your considered replies. Lord Douche and woodsman's game clearly had something to say, but Mobius, with a unique approach to syntax, provided the defining message on real lifestyle in the BDSM community.

Clearly, the message must be that one should really lower one's expectations, compromise, settle for much less, play stupid, negate all standards and by all means, never be without one's thesorous (sic) when entering into a play zone.
Oh, and don't forget to "loosen up"(?).