Have my interests changed?

I'm still new to all of this but I have to say yes. I started out reading erotica over the years and choosing my preferences according to what turned me on. Frankly, the harder the better. Now that my sub wife and I are starting the journey down this road I'm learning what works in my head doesn't always work in real life. Mostly due to my wife's limits but I love and respect her so I hold back and accept that she isn't me. I also realize that she will change too as she grows in the lifestyle. So part of this is acceptance of the circumstances and part is patience. She has alot of hangups but we'll work through some and some will just be "hell no". It should be a great journey.