Kind of funny to see this particular post. I'm about 7 months into my first BDSM relationship and it's been fantastic. My nightstand has a nice assortment of dildoes, vibrators, handcuffs, rope, oil, blindfolds etc. Just this weekend I found that my home would be empty for the night and called my girlfriend at work to tell her. I said, "Hey, we can finally try out that cock ring!" In the past I always forget I have it until...well, until its too late. She told me to go take it out now so we wouldn't forget. So Saturday night we're sitting in the living room having a cocktail and I walked into the bedroom and saw it sitting where I left it. I brought it out and sat on the couch next to her and started fiddling with it. I was already mildly hard and she was helping to find the appropriate tightness (in part based on some advice I got from you good people). We finally got it right...tight, but not too tight. Its the leather kind with snaps all around. She was amazed. She said she had never seen me that hard before. We had two hours of fantastic sex. She told me that it is her new favorite toy. Go figure!