What do you do when.......?

[His_pita]

Punishment is about receiving forgiveness for me as well. When I have been punished I have felt incredibly sorrowful for having done something that warranted being punished. I could have wallowed in that misery of shame and regret, but that isn't what was expected of me. He gives the punishment, he forgives me, he gives aftercare and it's to be forgotten and life resumes.

I do think doing something special for you Dom is a wonderful idea. However, beating yourself up for doing wrong is not your responsibility.

[Tojo]

Well my idea of punishment is to say I'm disappointed. I know that hurts, so I make sure she knows I've forgiven her & that whatever she's done or hasn't done is merely a glitch in an otherwise perfect thing.

To me it's up to a Dom/me to make sure their sub knows they're forgiven. If the sub spends days feeling awful, maybe they're not being paid enough attention.

Further to that, if a sub has feelings of rejection out of context to the here & now, maybe it's something the Dom should realise & work on.

It's not all about a Dom/me being perfect & a sub having to live up to them.

Tojo