victims of abuse support for submissives

[gemmy]

Call me a throw back, but it is against my nature to "forgive" any animal that has done the things they have done to my girl. I will burn in the depths before I do.

There are things that don't deserve to be forgiven.

This does not mean you need hold onto your rage, for the soul that eats only hate cannot thrive.

Trancend what has happened, grow again with love for each other, for you have survived like the trees of a long winters embrace.

I couldn't agree more!!

denu, it might not be a question of not wanting to, but one of being able too. There is still so much emotion wrapped up in what happened to you I don't think it's the right time yet. It's not possible.

What I am trying to do is let go of my abuse, to release it and allow it to become detached from me. When I can look at it without all the emotion, the fear, the horror, the hate, then maybe I will be able to turn around and forgive.

Some people find it helpful to meditate on the letting go. They picture how their life would be if they could look at the abuse and acknowledge it the same way they look at their car. "I have a blue car" -fact. "I was abused" -fact. It is impossible for some to forgive while the wound still bleeds.

You are not wrong, you,re just not ready yet. ~hugs denu~

Sorry ash but I don't believe all people Should be forgiven and as Kuskovian says, some animals don't deserve it.

I neither can forget nor will ever forgive what my tormentors did to me over Several years. They knew what they were doing. They weren't mentally ill or sick in any way. They did it simply because they could. I would happily see them rot in hell and will dance on their pathetic graves when they finally die. That whole what goes around comes around bs everyone talks about - to me is just a way to self soothe. These people tormented, tortured, raped not only me but other children that came around as well and others throughout the course of their lives - They are still living to a nice, ripe, healthy old age. That's what goes around - abusers will always have the upper hand and all we can do is try to distance ourselves from it, that's all I think anyone can do really.

Even if you do get the satisfaction of bringing them before the authorities (having fully humliated yourself in front of random strangers probing your every sexual thought and motive - yes, I did go this route and lost after being further humiliated); what does it get you? Are you then going to forgive them? No, you are no farther ahead and just back to putting distance between you and them, physically, emotionally and mentally.

*the 'you' in the above statements is just a general term and not personally pointed to anyone, thank you*

[Selash]

*strikes fist to chest*

I am not a vindictive Man. But, abusers Piss Me right the Hell Off... Few have ever seen Me enraged... the couple that had where quoted as say it was the "sacriest thing they have ever seen"... Anyone who thinks they have the right to abuse, in anyway, Shall have thier heads on a pike in My front yard, after I burn their home and salt thier land. Forgive mistakes, forgive wrongdoings, forgive a moment of weakness. Abuse shall not be tolerated, forgiven, marginallized or whitewashed.


*returns to My chair and lets the dark clouds gather, gently holding the hand of the woman I love most in the world*