My parents have been married for almost 33 years, and my mother could have just as easily written your post. She and my father have thier issues, but she considers it highly out of line to bitch about him or make fun or be disrespectful around others. She considers her relationship with him to be just that, with HIM, not with a bunch of cackling hens who mock thier partners to cover up real intimacy and satisfaction issues.

She and my father are also still quite sexual (all my siblings know never to show up to visit in the mornings and forget about seeing them for a few days if they've been apart from each other for awhile). And yes, they're a BDSM couple as well. I can't really give you more details on that aspect of things, I simply know because they have a toy box that makes even the adult store's stock seem anemic. I can only hope I am as delightfully kinky in 30 more years...lol.