victims of abuse support for submissives

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The IT...boy..the IT is I wasn't supposed to be born, was always considered the dumb, wierd kid, always ridiculed, degraded and belittled. Until 12 it was round a clock bully and harassment time. Luckily after that, at an other school, school was in fact my safe haven....me being that somewhat strange, but unconditional loyal and supportive kid - my character emerging - always the one to bring you home, always the one covering up for you.

Not your fault Rowen.....your parents fault. You had no choice being born.....and your parents did not protect you

The IT was my elder brother having his sexual way with me, to some degree, at which times I was also tied up - hence the huge moral conflict in my brain meanwhile being in doubt about my sexual orientation for years.

Not your fault Rowen...its your brothers fault.....IMO he is rapist plain and simple.

The IT was my parents living like seperated people under one roof..the last 10 years not even in the same bedroom...

Not your fault. Rowen.....Its you parents fault. My guess, sadly, is that think they were staying together for the sake of the children.......even so.....that is their relationship...

The IT was the agression at home, mainly from my brother, causing me to consider really drastic solutions..because every time police came...and went...and nothing changed.

Yes and sadly im sure that i know the considered solution to the ending of your pain.....

The IT was that whatever I wanted or did, it never mattered anyway.

And how old were you Rowen??...You were under their control.......so again....not your fault

The IT was the three of them seperately crying on my shoulder, having me do the negotiations to get the family going again.

User's to the end weren't they?...using you for support...and never offering support in return......toxic relationships......hugs......their fault...not yours.

The IT was that still somehow, everything always was my fault.

Not your fault Rowen. You wanted their love and approval.....and i think you still do.....its easier to deal with the pain....if everything is YOUR OWN FAULT...taking all of the painful blame for yourself.......if you do not BLAME THEM.....than somehow.......they may love you because you do NOT point the finger of blame at them.....

The other IT was life itself, every G@ddamn single time taking away something I started to cherish or thougt I had achieved.

that is life Rowen..it moves and changes ......in a blink of an eye.....life is not out to get you......life gives and takes from us all....you are not alone..hugs

The IT was that allthough appreciated and respected, I always have been that stranger. the one daring to make the politcal uncorrect but true statements.

I understand and know how you feel.........it is their loss not yours.....you are still looking for approval and acceptance.....the question is....do you really need it??.....

I approve of you and accept you for who and what you are......big hugs.....



And just as you fathers death does not absolve him......nor does your brothers possible illness........absolve him of raping you as a child.....I know he may need and want your support now.......but does he....deserve it???......i think not.


The thing is Rowen i think you still do hate them....you may not want to admit it.....because "its wrong to hate....and you cant hate your family"...

You were happy when you cut contact form the toxic influences.....and were able to deal with you anger/hate issues.......think about that Rowen.....

Now they are back.....your mother and brother.....both again looking to you for support.....and all the old feelings are back.




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