I must admit, i was surprised as well by the reality of the local munch scene. Superficially, there were what seemed to me, a lot of very large folk. I'm not just saying a few pounds overweight, I mean those that probably will end up with diabetes because of their condition. Under 5'7"ft but over 350lbs if i may paint a picture. However what surprised me more than this, was the lack of connection on a social level I had with most these people, regardless of size. I'd say in a room of 60, 10 or so of them I could relate to on a social level. The rest, i'd say were just a little "out there" for various reasons, and even with D/s aside, I'd probably not find myself befriending many, even if they were my next door neighbour.
That's not to say I can't be friendly, but if most of them came up to me, with a genuine interest in starting a relationship with me on any level other than saying hello now and again, a polite "no thanx" would probably be heard.
I don't think that makes me selfish. D/s relationships are all about compatability, and as free humans, we get to dictate the rules that make up what we consider to be compatable.

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