Quote Originally Posted by cyberian11 View Post
Wow....some great points in all three replies. Thank you all, and especially to Sidhe Wolf, who's obviously done the homework!

Downtown Amber, I was reading that thread and another similar one in the forums.

From what I read there and from people I talked to, it seems that a large majority in BDSM has considered polyamory at least once. But only a very small minority actually live in such a relationship.

WyldWyl, there are indeed a lot of 'long-distance' poly relationships, but I think that they fall under what Sidhe Wolf identified as Open Relationships, even if they're limited to one or two people outside the household.

Sidhe Wolf, I was blown away by the breadth and depth of the information you provided. No need for further links, for you've given me plenty to follow-up on. I'm not ready to pursue forming a poly house, but I feel more certain now that such a household is a viable option for me, should the right people enter my life.

ineedneedles, I think Sidhe Wolf would agree that you're describing an open relationship. It bears all the hallmarks: honesty, communication and sexual fulfillment for all concerned. Congratulations to you and yours (or should I say, to Him and His...) for having built a strong and fun-filled relationship.

I've gotten to know some wonderful--even if they are vanilla--poly people at okcupid.com (a free site, like collarme). And, yes, many of them have long unkempt hair, etc <g>

All the best,
Drew
Thank You for the appreciation Drew It's not really that I've done so much "homework" I've just been around a while <winks>. A lot of what I provide in information on these forums and others is actual experience.

And I know You did say You don't need any links now....but here is a good one JIC <winks>. http://www.slaveregister.com/ This place broadly covers the current Poly/BDSM issues, Dominant, Submissive, Slave thoughts, etc. Go to the Web Discussions area and find Poly.

You'd have to join to be able to Really Read on there though. As a Guest it's pretty limited as to what there is access to.

These days in the BDSM Community there is coming more Knowledge and Wisdom in the creating, handling, and building of Poly Style Relationship(s) and Intentional Families. Dominants are Learning that those in Their charge are people First, with thoughts and feelings also. And that the people in Their charge are there Consensually. Noone can make anyone anything they aren't, nor force a person into what they cannot do or accept. That's Why we have Limits hard and soft. The point is not to break but build. Dominants who Really Want and Need a Poly structure are Growing to what that is, how it works, and applying it. It is slow progress Dominants being the Beings They are >G>. I have every Faith that one day this work Everyone is doing will pay off.

I think also that Vanilla Poly and BDSM Poly will always be different things in many ways. However it hasta be Poly to be Poly Ya know? <giggles>.

Respectfully~SidheWolf