It's a mater of curiosity for me. You see I live between two different towns, but both are rather close minded.
In fact, one of the towns arrested some chippendales for violating some sort of business sexual ordinance or something, during the middle of one of the shows. The guys were really well behaved, stripping was minimal, but it was raided by the cops.
Also a number of the local boutiques have been harrassed by the local authorities. One of the cashiers was arrested at a local lingerie store for selling sexually inappropriate items, like vibrators, and there's the possibility that she may be charged as a sex offender simply for working there.

Which is sad, because I enjoy talking with people that I have met in sex stores. The cashiers in particular usually have interesting comments to make about the products.
I guess I'm simply feeling as though my current environment is rather restrictive. While I am free to ask people online about their lifestyles, I don't feel free to actively seek out a real life person to discuss these things with a little more in depth.
So even if the people where I live are into BDSM, the odds of anyone offering to reveal that are very slim, and a large part of that is, I believe due to the community view on alternative lifestyles and the strict sexual laws in place.

I want some coffee and a sit down discussion, and possibly some cudddling to go with. Not even as a sexually necessarily- just to have the physical human contact while I learn.