Quote Originally Posted by Ruby
Per http://www.sexresearch.org/

It's not always about sex, and for many its not about sex at all.

BDSM means means things to many people. Even the letters have dual meanings.
So true that it is not always about sex. I pay for the joy of experiencing anything in the BDSM realm and never wanted it to involve sex in any manner. I think this also testifies to Ruby's second statement that I quoted above. In light of this I would have to say that it is neither in the bedroom or in everyday for me.