I think community can make a huge difference- for example you probably dont want to do any BDSM in somewhere likeDubai (where a couple are facing 10 years in jail for having sex on a night time beach) but in London this morning, millions of people read all about Spank Daddy and how many women ask him to spank them/punish them in the lifestyle section of the free Metro newspaper as they rode the Tube.

(In fact the Metro tends to be a fairly kink-friendly paper, with usually some sort of BDSM/kinky related informational article every few weeks or so)

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