victims of abuse support for submissives

[rooshoe]

Does anyone have a problem with trust?

I have a very hard time with my submission in many ways. It's so emotional and psychological, and because of my desire to submit (non-sexual), I ended up trusting the wrong person and... yeah. Not fun. I ended up being unsafe because I wanted so badly to be able to open up and trust. There wasn't even anything kinky/BDSM going on; this was all about my feelings and the relationship I thought I had with this person. I just thought I could trust him, and because I *needed* to trust someone, I did. Stupid stupid stupid.

[Rowen]

Does anyone have a problem with trust?

I have a very hard time with my submission in many ways. It's so emotional and psychological, and because of my desire to submit (non-sexual), I ended up trusting the wrong person and... yeah. Not fun. I ended up being unsafe because I wanted so badly to be able to open up and trust. There wasn't even anything kinky/BDSM going on; this was all about my feelings and the relationship I thought I had with this person. I just thought I could trust him, and because I *needed* to trust someone, I did. Stupid stupid stupid.

Yes, that submissive desire, or the desire for attachment, those can make you forget about yourself..your own safety... IMHO trust has to be gained...not to be given..
Ask yourself just why you should trust that other one? Does he really deserve it? Has he proven himself worthy of it?
And hey, we ALL can make mistakes or misjudge a situation...it's human to err...and learn from it!