As with many things, it's individual ... and that's no surprise because you can't really choose where it takes place, anymore than you really choose your orientation.

You're submissive because "that's who you are," and I'm dominant. I'm in a TPE and working to make it pervasive of every part of our lives ... again because anything else would not be totally satisfying.

Sure, on a given day, full of stresses and distractions, less will have to suffice sometimes. We have been together only a bit over 3 months, so we're still learning how to do this within the limits and possibilities of our personalities. But we believe that the best lies ahead, sometimes in the bedroom, sometimes in the kitchen, sometimes (rarely so far) in the store, and the other night even in the car.

hJ