Originally posted by abitbent

I don't think that makes me selfish. D/s relationships are all about compatability, and as free humans, we get to dictate the rules that make up what we consider to be compatable.

bent
i've never been to a munch. dont exactly know what a munch is. dont think they have munches here. but that's not the point.

it is a superficial world we live in. so we are all superficial in one sense or another, in varying degrees. there is no denying that. like in all forms of relationships, d/s or not, you'd want someone who's compatible with you as abitbent has stated.

so yes. if i think i look good. not beautiful, but moderately pretty. then settling for some terribly overweight person who's likely to get diabetes (to quote an above post) would be... well, not likely to occur. why? because i'd rather hold out, and wait, for someone more suited to come along. maybe its just me, but i wont just simply settle for something, just because there's nothing better around at the time.

i do not think i'm being elitist. i'm just being realistic. if i cant stomach the way you look, then how on earth am i going to be willing to do your bidding. i'm not saying that you have to be terribly good looking. but at the very least, you have to be average looking. and be physically in good health. i have no wish to be squashed by someone who's like double or even triple my size.