After reading this thread from top to bottom, I wonder if my pet hasn't registered under multiple new screennames and posted all of this herself...

She feels horribly just knowing that I have been disappointed, and floats on clouds when she knows I have been pleased. To me, the act of a punishment always felt... fake? force? insincere? I don't like coming up with punishments because I don't like inflicting intentional discomfort. It's just not in me. I'm finding that being dominant is not the same as being cruel, and it is the dominance that I enjoy most. Discovering that I don't have to be cruel is only a recent revelation, and one I have been pleased to uncover together with Kate.

Kate baby - Hope you post here and share your own feelings about this.