I would have to agree with you on that one.

Just because you are a submissive does not mean that you should stop caring about yourself. I would be worried about someone who did only care about their Master/Mistress' needs.

Yes, it is important to please your Dominant but there is a fine line. At least in my opinion.

Now, to answer the origanal question. What do I want? I want to be able to serve TG to the best of my ability. I am not a very sexual person so most of my talents lay in the mundane things such as serving coffee, serving as a foor stool etc. However, what I want from my Dominant is understanding that there are somethings that I just cannot do, that somedays being submissve just is not in me that a lot of the times patience is required.

I eventually come around and am generally willing to do most things. I may put up a little bit of a fight initially but I eventually succumb and do as he asks...most times.

I also want him to help me grow but not push too far too fast or I may lose some of what I have gained. I am a very independant person and if you push too hard I will resist.

How do I handle unhappiness? Same as any other person. Just because I like the occasional spanking does not mean my sorrows are soothed any differently. Sometimes all I need is time to myself with a good book and a hot bath. Nothing better in the world than that for me.