My chat with my master tonight!!!

[Warbaby1943]

I am only asking what I see as an obvious. If he hasn't had a session with you in 7 weeks, do you think he is busy elsewhere with someone else? That is the question I would be asking. You may not get the answer you want to hear but maybe you can at least get on with your life even if it means finding a new Dom.

[Tojo]

Well here's another question for you BBW- do you think it makes sense to introduce someone new into a relationship that's not working too well?

Besides, if you had another Master who you could have sex with anytime, why would you need the first one?

It's times like this I'm reminded of the saying 'advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but don't want to admit it' or however it goes.

I always say the same thing to people in any sort of relationship- you have to decide for yourself what's fair. Forget the 'rules' & sit down & work out the basics. You have to make your own rules, not live by someone else's.


The post by Blue_Monday was just brilliant BTW.


Tojo

[BBW Submissive]

I had the chat with him and he basically pulled out from being my master. He said it was too much commitment, he works too many long and unusual hours plus he has family stuff going on and said for me to find someone else who can give me the time and effort I wanted from a master.
He basically wants to call me when he has time and wants no pressure. He said he would call me when he wants to. If I am busy then that is okay with him but he does not want anyone pressuring him into a schedule. He said he knows it has been 7 weeks since our last session but he just has not had the time to see me or any girl for that matter. He also does not know when he will have time to see me.

I am really hurt but I am also tired of waiting week after week on him for a session. The problem is I have been trying to find another master or dom but no one is responding to my ad. Also it is about trust and I want to play with my master but I can't play the way I really want with my new master whoever he may be because at first I won't have that trust with him. I would have to date him at first and get comfortable with him and then go into the dom/sub roleplay. That for me could take some time before I trust someone to use bondage, restrain me and place me in a position where I seriously have to trust him not to hurt me. I want to play like yesterday and now I have to not only wait to meet someone new but also go on more than a few dates with this man before we even get to the dom/sub roleplay.
I can see it already it is going to take a long time before I trust another man to be my dominant.
I have tried a few times on this web site to find a dom who lives in my area which is toronto and no one has responded to my ad at all. where else can I advertise looking for a dom? This female sub needs to find a new dominant as soon as possible but it is hard. I am not into phone domination or over the computer domination. I would like the face to face, one on one and person to person domination. This time I need to find a dom who is still ambitious but able to make time to play with a sub at least once a week minimum. No more men who are married to their work with little or no time left over for play.
I always seem to like men who things don't work out with. Can anyone suggest a place to go in toronto to find a new male dom?