Originally posted by Faibhar
Letting one's self go, as in allowing one's self to get...FAT indicates to others that you simply do not care about yourself, and by extension, care about others.

Now, is it so wrong to not be attracted to the unattractive? And the above just addresses the physical appearance. What about the inner beauty that seems to say, I just don't care how I look or how others see me? I may be stupid and slothful, doesn't that make me a real catch?

Shallowness, superficiality, vain glory, however you wish to describe the selection of others does indicate something of yourself.
there you go. you've said what i wanted to say kinda.

its not wrong to be attracted to the unattractive. if you're ugly, or fat, or whatever, but you do take some trouble to make yourself presentable. then i see nothing strange that yes, people might find you attractive in your own right, because of who you are within.

but on the other hand, if you're ugly or fat or whatever, and you cant even be bothered to make yourself look presentable. then no. if you cant be bothered to even decently groom yourself. then i'm afraid i shant bother with you.

how you present yourself to the world outside, shows a certain amount of who you are as a person. if you cant even bother to care for yourself, then would you be able to care for others?