Well first up Cleo, you have to want to do this.

Assuming you're a female.. You would be a Domme, not a Dom.

Secondly, you've said lots about what he wants, but what about what you want? As you say, to hell with what his first wife did- this is about you & him.

Are you happy that you're suddenly expected to know it all? Is that reasonable?

Maybe it's time to sit down & have a long talk with this eager young gentleman- you just might have a few things to work out!

It's good advice to read anything & everything as Anya said, but maybe you need to work out the dynamics first?

By that I mean what he actually wants in detail, & what you're happy with.

This is not just about his needs, you're in the relationship too. Maybe it's time to take a deep breath & sit down & think about what you want?

It could be a whole lot of fun if you do the groundwork.

Tojo