I agree with Arria. I have on occasion met subs who were involved with online Doms who were married, but they knew at the beginning that the relationship most likely would never get any further than that. I myself would have never gotten involved with a married Dom. When I am a Dom's sub I want His focus on me and me alone. I do not want to come in second place, because His wife will always be #1 to Him. I know that a lot of the married Doms online are in vanilla marriages but want/need BDSM as well. But as long as they are married they aren't going to get any closer to their online sub. I have too much self respect than to get involved with a married man knowing that there will be nothing but disappointment and heartbreak because we would never be able to truly be an intimate couple. I am not willing to be anyone's #2.