hiya naomi and darkbutterfly> i am glad you posted here with us you are very brave to come forward as are the others before you , i wish we didnt have this commonality to share, its not a great club to be in
abuse weather it was from a bdsm situation or not is still abuse
our subbmission in a bdsm relationship can actually work as a strength to our recovery in many ways especially with a supportive owner, i draw great comfort from my owners protective support as well as his understanding, it is also something that keeps me from harming myself when the darkness closes in because i have to preserve myself for him (i dont know if it makes sence to all but it works for me) i also see that effort to protect myself from myself to preserve my owners "property" as a motivator for the as yet unowned too, as they must protect themselves for thier future dom/domme
also the medical comunity has a tendency to catorgize we that are lovers of bdsm in a way that puts our kink in a derogatory light (more than one doctor and or nurse/therapist has shown me such discrimination first hand)
, something i wish to say about this is they are wrong when they do this, we are loving careing human beings and i figured the people that would best understand this is our fellow bdsm community members that dont judge us for our kink
thats one of the main resons the thread was started so we that are into bdsm and are survivors of abuse, (any abuse) can help support one another, aslo it was to help establish a modus opperandi for recovery and information guilde for those in the community that are trying to help abuse survivor submissives but didnt really know how to go about it, i have heard of many mis-communications between doms/dommes with formerly abused submissives that didnt understand why thier sub just couldnt "get" past certian aspects or perform certian tasks for them, and who better to give them the informational tools they need to help thier subs than we who have survived
after all, who best understands our peer group if not ourselves?