I think there is a big difference between paying exuberant for an online "Mistress", or handing over the control over your finances as a part of a power exchange -- after considering the possible consequences, and taking the time to build the trust that is necessary. Admittedly, both scenerios make me slightly skeptical, but I don't think that in a lifestyle relationship of any kind it goes like: "Hello. We only met only yesterday. Please let me give you my account data. And while I am at it, may I buy you a new car?" I imagine it takes a long time of planning, talking, and a whole lot of trust to take that step.

I have seen similar webpages, and in my opinion -- pardon my directness -- they are one big scam exploiting the needs of individuals that have a hard time getting their desires and needs fulfilled. Please don't misunderstand me, I in no way mean to judge the submissive men who enter such relationships. I don't, however, think highly of the women offering such 'services'. You don't get anything for your money. If you're unlucky -- or not exuberantly rich -- Mistress Wonderful won't possibly even talk to you. If you pay for being whipped, or degraded, or treated as a pet -- then you get what you pay for. This way you end up paying, paying, paying...with no obvious results. I wonder if this may be an independent fetish, but even if it is it feels like a very unsafe and unconsensual thing to me.

This goes far beyond buying somebody a gift as a token of appreciation. This is financing somebody who doesn't care a bit a lifestyle they couldn't afford elsewise. I also have some serious doubt that these 'dominant' women are really dominant. From what I've read, they're just as vanilla as your neighbour, but have found a clever marketing niche. I'd say that it should be illegal, but then...maybe there are people who really get something out of that. If that's the case, hell, go for it. But be very, very careful so you don't overlook your own limits. Hugh, I have spoken