I tell my best friend almost anything and he knows that im actively seeking out my submissiveness.. although very new to it and such ive had great conversations with him on the subject and he understands and doesnt judge.
As for my family im very open with them especially with my mom. She has seen some bdsm books but i dont think shes connected the dots, if she has shes not asking and im not telling. I cherish vanilla life.. just as much as i cherish the alt life.