I've always known I was into both control and pain, I was getting that special buzz from scenes of bondage, slavery and torture in books and films as far back as I can remember.

I started out mostly fantasising about myself as the slave or victim, but as I went thru my teens I increasingly wanted to be in control.

Unlike a lot of other posters I'm not an obviously Dominant person, my nature is to slack off and let someone else take the decisions; friends who know I'm in D/s relationships but don't know the details often assume I'm the sub! I actually find it hard work being in charge, but it's worth the effort.