Food for thought indeed Denuseri, thanks for sharing them with us, I really do feel a need to make comment with regard to sections 3 and 4 of your post, well ok most of it in fact lol.

I feel able to, and confident in calling myself a switch, not because I am confused, I cringe every time a domme tells me this, that I am confused because I simply, quote unquote “have not met the right domme yet” this really is not the case, I am far from confused, I know exactly what I want from all of the relationships that I enter into, from the outset, it is the qualifying criteria that denotes said relationships.

Often this statement is made by dommes who fail to understand me, make no effort to do so and attempt to domme cravens ass using their usual one size fits all dominant approach to BDSM.

I am, I feel very much towards the dominant end of the spectrum having only been a sub once before my current relationship, this did not end well, however as those that know me know I am currently serving one who is teaching me much about submission, and possibly more importantly helping me learn about myself as well.

This will I feel make me a more rounded person and a better and stronger Dom. However my Domma did not force me to surrender to her, nor make me serve her. I have done this and am doing so willingly. A Dom prior to, during and post this experience I certainly am, My Domma helped me uncover the submissive feelings and skills within me, she helped to unlock them so as to allow me to experience being a sub, but not just to experience the emotions within our relationship, but all potential future relationships, whether dom or sub, and to her I am her submissive, she controls me and embrace this and love it.

Your comment with regard to learning from other doms not necessarily making for a better domme, as in you could not learn to be better than your master is a valid one and here I feel I need to clarify why I feel that switches make very good doms. It is not because we learn from other doms how to dom, no not that at all, but rather because we understand how the submissive feels, what they need, and desire, we are in touch with our subs emotions because we have felt and experienced these feelings ourselves. We do genuinely understand and appreciate these.

Do I desire this going forward in all of my relationships no of course not, I am currently seeking a new submissive, not to hide or run from my own submissive feelings, but because this is what I desire to do. It is a conscious decision by me.

Different people trigger different feelings and desire within me, to say that life is black and white would be over simplifying things to the extreme, I have no issue or problem per se with those who are as you say committed to one path or the other, but just as, I as a heterosexual have no beef with those who are Bi-sexual I feel it is a matter of personal preference and choice, I do not seek to push my opinions onto others and am happy that we are able to debate such issues openly.

I would say though it is unjust to use the words confused or non-committal in conjunction with switches. I know I am neither. I am very committed to all of the relationships that I have been or am in.

As for point 4, I am neither going to refute this or support it, and no that its not a typical confused switch response. I have spoken with my Domma, herself a switch and other switches about this and feel that to be truthful, at times we all need different things within our lives.

I personally do not like to dom subs unless they are very strong themselves, there is real strength in submission, only those who are very strong and confident within themselves are truly able to surrender fully. Having experienced submissions and dominance I can state this with the up most confidence, so it really is not a case of switches simply seeking to dom those that will submit to them, far from it, much more complex in fact.

As such I am neither confused or a submissive I am a switch, I know this and am very confident and comfortable with it. I do feel that I sit very much towards the dominant side of the spectrum, as I would venture to many other switches. We do not tend to make the easiest subs, trust me on that one grins. I would venture.

Please don’t call me confused or say that I can be cured of my feelings, I am very happy as I am, I know what I am and like and welcome the ability to Dom and submit.

Both provide me with different feelings and rewards, I would never wish to have to make a permanent decision as to what label I wanted applied to me.

Perhaps switches ability to make this stance makes us the committed ones, as we are able to and prepared to make our own stance and not accept any of the pre ordained labels, this I leave with you, as I am sure it will prompt responses, I personally feel that we are all entitled to our own freedom of choice and expression.

Both elements give me great pleasure, and I have no desire to take a label and forsake one of these sources of pleasure.

I have made my choice and am very happy thank you, I need neither curing or clarity of thought, I am a switch, and that works for me thanks.