Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
I want to be able to relax. I want someone else to take responsibility over what I do and how I behave rather than the other way around. I want someone else to give me orders and tell me what to do and how to behave and what I'm doing wrong. But I don't trust anyone else BUT myself to take on such a task.
I sooo know what you are talking about. I don't know if I can offer you any good advice, but often it helps to know that you are not the only one and if you need an ear and someone to talk to, I am here for you. How it worked out for me, I met a Dom who didn't so much as ask as He simply took over control (actually I am in the process of writing a blog about how that came to be, lol), but I still struggled for the longest time (I still do) to relax, to obey and submit and feel safe to admit that I need Him.

Patience is a good advice; though from experience I know that doesn't sit well with an overachiever, lol.

This place helps too, so read up!

Its possible to meet good Doms, but only you know what that means for you.

Dont rush it, but eventually you are going to have to take a risk and trust someone.

Take it one step at the time, at the pace you are comfortable, don't be too hard on yourself because you are not able to throw yourself into TPE with the first guy who claims to be a Dom. Trust takes time to build, a person who cares about you will understand that, Dom or not.


Welcome to the library,

Adriana