I know what you mean. I'm on CM, too. No one has actually wanted to befriend me without some ulterior motive. That being said, I've met 2 dominants from that site after sorting through literally hundreds of emails. The first relationship lasted a year. The second is progressing quite nicely. It may be harder or more frustrating to try to get to know someone online, but I didn't find any viable alternatives at the local dungeon. The key to using sites like CM, I think, is to be very specific about what you're looking for because there are thousands of profiles, and finding a good match is like trying to find the proverbial needle in a haystack. Try to find someone relatively local so you can meet rather quickly. Face to face is still the best way to find out if someone is for real.