My husband and I have an absolute agreement - whatever happens we stay together.

How that translates is...to each other we come first, our trust is absolute, we talk about everything, we have seen each other at our worst and our lowest, there are no recriminations, we are free to be who we are with one another. And we don't trust anyone else. The last statement comes from the fact that when we got together for the longest time people tried to talk us out of being together and/or play us against it each other - it never worked because we always went to each other with such stories and cleared the air. We preserved.

We are considerate to one another. Though we are like that with other people too.

Physical contact isn't just fun its important for spiritual connection.

And personally, I have one guiding thought in life, when I am unable to reach a decision I always remember - It's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't.

But I think these principles work whether the relationship is vanilla or bdsm, and the "whips and chains" part is just a cherry on the top.