You just may not be right for one another. Why not take a break and learn seperately? Learn what you like and do not like. What makes you feel good and bad. Personally, I feel like you have to really try to get intouch with yourself that way you can more freely share yourself with another. Don't be afraid to make this journey alone if that is what you need, it's okay to be alone, it's okay to need time.

Being a sub to a Dominant is not easy. It requires much time, effort, dedication... and frankly not everyone can do it 24/7.

Some are into BDSM for the kink. Some are in it for the lifestyle... just because you have submissive tendancies, doesn't mean you have to be a sub.

In my own opinion, for what it is worth, I think you need some time alone to learn your own self value. Learn what it is that draws you to BDSM. What you want in a Dom. What you think you need in a Dom. What you do not want in a Dom. Etc...

Why not try to make lists or things you like about yourself, dislike, wish to improve upon...

A list of things you want/need in a mate/Dom.

Things that turn you....

etc....