Yeah, that makes perfect sense. I belong to a women's online forum and there are message boards dealing with sex on the forum. People on one particular board discuss what they consider to be "kinky" sex, which actually is only anal sex and threesomes. And here I come onto the board posting about the animal play and age play that Master and I participate in, and the floggings and Him using my hair as a leash in public (my public collar doesn't have any O-rings on it). And these people on this forum are all assuming that I am being abused, that I'm a doormat, that I'm setting back women's lib 50 years, etc. And these are perfect strangers, women whom I will never meet in person.

I have no problem keeping things to myself. It was the way I was raised. But since you are an open book to others, I can understand just how difficult dealing with others about this will be for you. I wish I had some answers for you in how to deal with your family and friends about this!