Reds,

I have struggled with how much information to give to different people over the course of T & my's relationship. Would I describe myself as 24/7? Yes. Would others? Eh, who knows. But the thing is, 24/7 is what you make it--it is different for everyone. My point is that you shouldn't be dissuaded by "fables" or fictional accounts of what 24/7 is. You will have to try it, "play with it" a bit, have good communication with your Owner, and adapt it to fit your lifestyle.

Knowing you (just a little bit), I doubt you will be a wallflower type of slave. And you know what? Most slaves aren't. The 24/7s I've met are absolutely fantastic folks--dynamic, personable... and MOST have jobs/lives outside the home. Why? Because that's the reality of today's society. And if they aren't working outside the house, they have some sort of hobby that takes them into another social group outside of Lifestyle. That is EXTREMELY healthy & you should do your best to make sure you have that type of outlet as a 24/7. Why? Because without it, you'll go stir crazy, you will lose perspective.

Imagine this. Your Owner's been at work all day, comes home exhausted & just wants to rest. You on the other hand have been home all day, with your mind constantly wandering to sex. So when your Owner comes home, you want that fantasy 24/7 sexual dynamic... reality is this. It isn't going to happen. 24/7 is exactly that--ALL the time. You will ebb & flow with "how much play" you do, but always an undercurrent with you and your Owner will be the D/s dynmaic. Just something to remember...

But getting back to the main subject (and cutting off my babbling), how much you tell people is up to you. You guys here know about T & I, but you don't know who we are or where we actually live. That's a safety thing for the both of us--esp. with the high powered r/l we have individually. My r/l friends, family & social circle basically know nothing about T's & my M/s dynamic. Why? Because it would make them uncomfortable. I am perfecly comfortable in sharing, but sometimes you have to protect other people against themselves & their biases. Just use a little common sense... there may end up being a "good time" to talk to a close relative about it, but the family BBQ probably isn't the time. T & I just roll with the flow--if someone sort of knows, or inquires, we'll tell them. And we CERTAINLY don't hide it... but neither do we flaunt it... Again, all personal choices.

You have to feel comfortable with yourself & your choice. Yes, loved ones all have opinions that matter to us. But at the end of the day, it is your life & you have to live with it & be happy...

Enough of my babble...

Good luck!

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